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I’m a particular kind of woman. Here’s a superficial breakdown (because of limited space and time):   I’m Black. More specifically, I’m African  American. I’m cis. That means I agree, psychologically, socially, and sensually, with the gender I was assigned at birth. I’m straight. I like men; I like the ones who are masculine. I’m […]

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Speaking of terror, and thinking of Supreme Love,  I was thinking about fragmented selves a lot, all week. I’m documenting the process of developing the Supreme Love methodology in a course. As I build and implement it, I’m considering so many ideas. One salient idea I want to share with you today, as we close […]

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  Yesterday we had a bunch of great conversations going about dissociative disorder. I shared that, as a recovering co-dependent and Main Chick (my former lover identity), I once suffered from dissociative disorder and I overcame it. This disorder is relatively common among people who’ve experienced a disproportionate amount of relational and social terrors. A […]

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Contrary to popular opinion, you’re not here to heal anybody.   I tend to say this often because I’m part of a community of scholars, educators, and coaches who do emotional justice for social justice. There are lots of opportunities to develop a savior complex in this line of work. It’s really easy to do, […]

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